A quieter place to consider a life-changing path

Your path to family
is your own.

Kbuti is an education, connection and advocacy platform for intentionally created families–beginning with people considering donated gametes, including donated sperm or eggs, and expanding to surrogacy pathways.

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You are not behind. You are not late. This is a place to slow down, understand the choices and prepare without pressure.

The three pillars of Kbuti

Education.
Connection.
Advocacy.

Kbuti supports individual journeys while helping reshape the culture, language and systems surrounding intentionally created families.

Education

Informed, child-centred learning across preconception, conception, pregnancy and parenting, plus education for parents of donor-conceived adults who are revisiting past clinic advice or preparing for honest conversations.

Connection

K’munity, events, shared learning, sibling connections and support that grows with each family.

Advocacy

No Secrets, truthful origins, accessible genetic and medical information, birth-record reform and intentionally conceived voices.

You might be thinking

There are a lot of questions before there is a clear path.

You do not need to arrive with the language, the answers or a perfectly formed plan. Kbuti is being created to help you understand the options, ask better questions and make informed decisions without pressure.

We begin with the words people commonly use. Kbuti’s education then introduces clear, inclusive terminology for donated gametes, donor-assisted conception and the different relationships involved.

01I don’t know where to begin. What do I do first?

02I can’t afford IVF. What other pathways could I consider?

03What’s involved in using a known donor, sometimes called a private or social donor?

04IVF is not the path I want. What alternatives might be available?

05I’m single and worried I cannot afford to raise a child.

06I want to source my own sperm and use a clinic. How does that work?

07I’m frightened that my fertile window is closing.

08We are socially infertile. What are our options?

Why Kbuti exists

I found another
way to become
a mother.

Motherhood did not unfold the way I had imagined. At 39, I found myself facing questions scattered across clinics, legal advice, online groups and other people’s certainty. Eventually, I found another path.

I conceived with a known donor and became a mother. I do not regret my decision–but hindsight showed me how much more there was to understand. Choosing a donor pathway is not only a decision about conception. It creates relationships, responsibilities and a person who will live with that decision for their lifetime.

Kbuti grew from my lived experience and the conversations begun in Desperately Seeking Semen–My Rogue Route to Parenthood. It is not here to persuade. It exists to help people make informed, child-centred decisions and build real support around them.

– Hayley Hendrix, founder of Kbuti

The meaning behind Kbuti · Birthed in 2018

Seed the community first.

Kbuti is my interpretation of a kibbutz: a collective community built around cooperation, shared responsibility and people supporting one another. Kbuti was officially birthed in 2018 from the belief that community should come first–not isolation–so each person can create their own path within something stronger.

The panda represents balance, peace, patience and gentle strength. Its black-and-white coat reflects the harmony of Yin and Yang: opposing realities that can exist together. The heart places love at the centre of family creation, while the dandelion carries a wish outward–a hope released into the world that may take root somewhere unexpected.

An introduction from Hayley

Hear the spirit of Pave the Path

Listen to Kbuti founder Hayley Hendrix introduce the thinking behind Pave the Path to Parenthood, recorded in her own voice. Specialist modules will also draw on qualified expert knowledge and lived experience.

About this introduction

Motherhood did not unfold the way I imagined. So I found another path. It was not perfect or conventional, but it was deeply considered. Pave the Path to Parenthood brings together the questions, lessons and practical preparation I wish I had before conception using donated gametes–so you can move at your own pace, with clarity, confidence and connection.

The course is the front door

Pave the Path
to Parenthood.

Pave the Path to Parenthood is the revised ten-module audio course built from years of Kbuti work. Listen at your own pace, pause to reflect and use the accompanying journal to turn information into a plan that belongs to you.

A clear decision not to proceed is also a valid outcome.

Ground yourself first

Quiet the noise, examine the language and begin with you–before gametes, donors or decisions.

Understand your body

Explore baseline tests, reproductive anatomy, ovarian reserve, hormones, ovulation and questions for your doctor.

Map the financial reality

Compare common pathways, hidden costs, professional support and the buffer that may make your plan sustainable.

Prepare fertile ground

Consider food, the microbiome and supportive lifestyle changes without perfection, punishment or panic.

Widen the lens

Use counselling, values and reflection to explore capacity, identity, work, relationships and the life around the decision.

Create legal clarity

Understand parentage, agreements, birth records, jurisdictional differences and why clarity matters more than assumptions.

Navigate clinics & gamete banks

Look beyond the procedure to compare clinic pathways, donated sperm, donated eggs, costs, limitations and informed choice.

Understand donor pathways

Explore contact, health history, sperm quality, etiquette, alignment, safety and sourcing with integrity.

Assisted conception techniques

Learn the pathways, language, timing, consent, boundaries and implications of clinic and private options.

The two-week wait

Create space for the wait, steady your nervous system, stay connected and begin thinking beyond the result.

Educational preparation only. Kbuti does not replace personalised medical, legal, financial or psychological advice.

Kbuti expands with the journey

Four connected streams.
One evolving path.

Kbuti begins before conception and continues through pregnancy into parenting. Each stream meets people where they are, supporting both the expansion from one person into a family and the learning, identity and relationships that keep evolving along the way.

Preconception

A place to pause before action: understand your body, options, donors, clinics, costs, legal questions, emotional readiness and the life surrounding the decision.

Conception

Grounded support while trying to conceive: timing, assisted conception pathways, boundaries, wellbeing, decision records and connection through the uncertain middle.

Pregnancy

A supported stream for the physical, emotional and identity shifts of pregnancy–including the intentionally conceived person’s story, donor relationships, disclosure and preparing your village.

Parenting

Support as a family takes shape: truthful age-appropriate disclosure, identity, donor and sibling connections, changing relationships, practical village-building and learning alongside your child.

A handmade natural-fibre journal beside a dandelion

The Kbuti journey journal

Record more than appointments.
Preserve the story.

The journal travels beside the audio course, helping you document the questions you asked, the information you received, your decisions, boundaries, agreements and the people who formed your K’munity.

A private place to process an emotionally complex journey
A record of decisions and conversations to revisit later
A story you may choose to gift to your child one day
Useful context for professional or legal conversations
Details that may help future sibling connections

The journal can preserve contemporaneous information, but it is not a substitute for legal agreements, official records or professional advice.

One platform, many family structures

Different roles need different preparation.

Kbuti will begin with one carefully held course and grow into expert-led pathways. Inclusion should be designed in–not added later as a footnote.

For women carrying

The first Pave the Path to Parenthood course: pre-conception preparation for women considering pregnancy using donated gametes–whether unpartnered, queer, dating, unmarried or living separately from a partner.

For prospective sperm donors

An expert-reviewed pathway for men considering intentional sperm donation: motivation, screening, consent, boundaries, agreements and the lifelong perspective of the person conceived.

For partners supporting

A pathway for men supporting a partner using donated sperm: making room for grief, building confidence, choosing language and becoming a secure, connected parent.

For people seeking donated eggs

Preparation for women and couples considering donated eggs: clinics, donor pathways, genetic connection, grief, disclosure, legal questions and the lifelong story of the person conceived.

For people exploring surrogacy

An expert-led pathway for intended parents considering surrogacy: relationships, consent, legal frameworks, emotional preparation, communication and the lifelong story shared with the person conceived.

For more family structures

Future expert-led spaces for LGBTQIA+ families, men seeking parenthood and people whose family-building experience has not been safely represented elsewhere.

The K’munity membership

A place to keep learning,
meeting and growing.

The audio course opens the door. K’munity creates the continuing connection: live education, honest conversation and stage-specific support as members move through preconception, conception, pregnancy and parenting.

Expert webinars

Accessible live and recorded conversations with medical, legal, psychological and lived-experience experts–without replacing personalised professional advice.

Practical workshops

Smaller working sessions for decision-making, donor and surrogate relationships, disclosure language, agreements, journalling and building a dependable village.

Stage-based events

Preconception, conception, pregnancy and parenting gatherings designed around what people are navigating now, rather than treating every family-building journey as the same.

Intentionally conceived voices

Carefully facilitated, age-appropriate events that centre intentionally conceived people and connect with the wider donor-conceived community–guided by qualified experts and strong safeguarding.

A community that gives forward

Your membership can mean something for someone else, too.

Kbuti is being built to do more than connect and educate. Our vision is for a portion of what memberships, courses and events generate to flow back into the K’munity, helping members access education, practical care and support when it matters most.

The exact model is still taking shape. Early members will help us build it responsibly, transparently and around the real needs of the community.

Empowered, never isolated

No one should have to navigate their own expansion alone.

Creating a family expands a life in every direction. It can mean moving from one person into a family, growing into parenthood, widening a child’s community and continually learning who you are becoming. Agency does not mean carrying that expansion without help.

Kbuti centres the village: family, friends, community, professional support, appropriate donor relationships and any partner who joins the story later. It is designed as an organic, human-led space where trust grows before access expands.

How Kbuti will expand

Preconception, conception, pregnancy and parenting streams

Moderated stage-based K’munity groups

The Kbuti podcast: lived experience, expert voices and honest conversation

Parenting, disclosure and sibling-connection resources

A safe pass-it-on marketplace for maternity and parenting items

Independent clinic and gamete-bank information

Birth-record reform, truthful origin information, better registries and respectful language

Advocacy in action · The Kbuti No Secrets policy

Every person owns the truth of their beginnings.

Kbuti believes intentionally conceived people should know the truth of their origins from the beginning, shared in age-appropriate language that grows with them. Adults may help hold the story, but should not replace fact with a version created for adult comfort.

Truth without erasure

Honesty about genetic origins does not diminish the parent or parents who love, raise and care for a child. Social parenthood, legal parenthood and genetic connection can all be named clearly and respectfully.

Information that belongs to them

Kbuti advocates for birth-record laws that preserve accurate information about the gametes used in conception and make it accessible to the person it belongs to–including relevant medical history and biological connections.

Birth certificates, donor registers and parentage laws differ by jurisdiction. Kbuti’s advocacy is about truth, identity and lifelong access to information–not automatically assigning parenting status to a gamete provider.

Kbuti’s advocacy commitment: to centre the rights and lived experiences of intentionally conceived people, encourage honest family conversations and support reform that protects lifelong access to accurate origin information.

The Kbuti privacy promise

Some conversations
need walls.

As Kbuti takes shape, it collects your first name, email, general location, connection to Kbuti and support interests. Please do not submit medical records, donor details or private information about a child.

Your details will be used only for relevant Kbuti updates and invitations to help shape the K’munity. They will not be sold or shared with clinics, donors, advertisers or data brokers. You can ask to be removed at any time.

Your path to familyis your own.

Education.Connection.Advocacy.